I'd say those are pretty basics in regard of this kind of treatment.
Do you find these requirements unreasonable or is it lack of money that is the problem? Or maybe both? Im not sure i understand exactly what it is you are saying but would like to.
Personally ive had these kinds of agreements in every type of therapy ive had. Being consistant in showing up and in case it becomes a problem for whatever reason, discuss it and find a solution that works.
Having goals and reviewing how its going along the way and setting new goals when one is reached is also a normal requirement.
I agree that these things are basic and needs to be in place for the treatment to be effective as she says. Ive never experienced to not have agreements like that (sometimes even more agreements for me to get the treatment) from the start, no matter whether it was treatment in the mental health sector here or the private treatment ive had and it makes sense to me.
It seems she wants to help and believe she can but it is true that it also require you to do something and make clear deals and agreements with her that you follow. I think she seems understanding from how i read it but i do understand how it can be a problem financially and maybe you need to discuss that with her and see if, together, you can find a solution where the treatment can still be effective and you are able to cope financially with it.
It is of course not going yo be easy to challenge your beliefs, behaviors etc. But perhaps fir now, finding a solution on how to get the help and how it can work fir both you and her is most important. Then after that face the difficulties of talking little by little and challenge the belief of it being impossible to talk or certain things will happen and how to manage the risks that may occur after you have opened up. That should be in place beforehand as well.
If is your choice though whether you can talk or not. Not an easy choice but yours still. It is also your choice whether to harm yourself and again s difficult one if you believe something horrible will happen if you dont. But you only get better if you do this snd challenge it and by that learn that it is not necessarily true what you are so convinced of. I do understand that it is in no way easy and that it will cause major anxiety and triggers however how to handle those things is also something to find out with her if you agree to the treatment.
However it is clear from her email that she is not expecting you to just be able to open up and tell everything within an hour. She does need to feel thst you want this snd is trying and challenging things, even though its hard and scary. She needs to feel that you want this and is willing to do what is necessary for you to get better but not all at once.
It is not unusual for therapists/psycholigists etc. To have a few demands and from what i have experienced, hers seem very readonable and fair in comparison.
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