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griddlebone · 24-01-2015, 10:08 AM

For some people they think the distance can work and then as the conversation carries on they/you realise that the distance is an issue or they don't feel enough of a connection to make the effort to physically go the distance, long distance is difficult enough with someone who you truly love/ want to be with, so if he was not 100% sure it was probably for the best that he cut it off there.

I think one of the issues is (and I don't want to come across as rude here) that you really crave a relationship/male attention, so much so that as soon as any man starts talking/flirting you immediately see it as progressing onto a serious relationship etc and then when it doesn't go that way you feel rejected and like it is your fault.

I feel that it would benefit you to really withdraw from wanting to date someone for a while, I know it's really difficult to be happy on your own, but until you can stand to be with your own company you will continue to just try and force a connection with anyone who comes along, regardless on whether they are right for you or not.

24-01-2015, 10:08 AM	#4
griddlebone Head of Chat/Forum Mod. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: London. I am currently:	For some people they think the distance can work and then as the conversation carries on they/you realise that the distance is an issue or they don't feel enough of a connection to make the effort to physically go the distance, long distance is difficult enough with someone who you truly love/ want to be with, so if he was not 100% sure it was probably for the best that he cut it off there. I think one of the issues is (and I don't want to come across as rude here) that you really crave a relationship/male attention, so much so that as soon as any man starts talking/flirting you immediately see it as progressing onto a serious relationship etc and then when it doesn't go that way you feel rejected and like it is your fault. I feel that it would benefit you to really withdraw from wanting to date someone for a while, I know it's really difficult to be happy on your own, but until you can stand to be with your own company you will continue to just try and force a connection with anyone who comes along, regardless on whether they are right for you or not.
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