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Auror. · 31-12-2014, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Pi.R^2

She does sound a little abrupt!

Is she aware that there are things that you don't feel you are allowed to talk about? She does also mention talking about other agencies/resources that might be helpful to you, so I'd say it's worth meeting with her again, to explain why it is difficult for you to engage on her terms and to see if any of the alternatives would be better for you.

I have tried to explain in the past, but I think she thinks my wording is inappropriate and that I just don't want to talk about things. Not that I literally am not allowed and cannot. I have said that I choose my words carefully and that I am aware of the difference, and that is why I say it how I do. But then I really can't explain why I am not allowed to talk about things, and there is very little in terms of self harm stuff that I am allowed to say.

I already know her alternatives, and they are really not suitable options. There is a women's rape and domestic abuse place, psychiatric emergency services which is where you go in crisis or if you show up at the hospital, and a community organisation that I am not allowed to use.

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Originally Posted by Ballerina123

What is it that you find difficult to engage with? Is it that you're not yet ready to work on reducing self harm?

I think it would be worth meeting with her again and explaining how you feel and see if you can both come up with something that might help even if it is accessing other resources.

It's not that I would not like to reduce my self harm. It's that I am unable to speak about many of the things she asks or wants to know. For example she asked once what it felt like for me physically when I got anxious. I had no idea how to answer. Justin was there and answered easily, even she answered easily. I just got confused and had no idea. So even things like that, that perhaps I would be able to talk about, I get mixed up and confused and just shut down. As I said in Jenna's reply, her other resources are essentially useless to me.

I emailed her back and attempted to explain that I do want to work on things but I am not allowed to speak about certain things, but that was likely irrelevant because I won't meet her standards. Then apologised for wasting her time. So I assume that is pretty much that.

Oh well. Thank you both. <3

31-12-2014, 10:39 PM	#4
Auror. Camden Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA	Quote: Originally Posted by Pi.R^2 She does sound a little abrupt! Is she aware that there are things that you don't feel you are allowed to talk about? She does also mention talking about other agencies/resources that might be helpful to you, so I'd say it's worth meeting with her again, to explain why it is difficult for you to engage on her terms and to see if any of the alternatives would be better for you. I have tried to explain in the past, but I think she thinks my wording is inappropriate and that I just don't want to talk about things. Not that I literally am not allowed and cannot. I have said that I choose my words carefully and that I am aware of the difference, and that is why I say it how I do. But then I really can't explain why I am not allowed to talk about things, and there is very little in terms of self harm stuff that I am allowed to say. I already know her alternatives, and they are really not suitable options. There is a women's rape and domestic abuse place, psychiatric emergency services which is where you go in crisis or if you show up at the hospital, and a community organisation that I am not allowed to use. Quote: Originally Posted by Ballerina123 What is it that you find difficult to engage with? Is it that you're not yet ready to work on reducing self harm? I think it would be worth meeting with her again and explaining how you feel and see if you can both come up with something that might help even if it is accessing other resources. It's not that I would not like to reduce my self harm. It's that I am unable to speak about many of the things she asks or wants to know. For example she asked once what it felt like for me physically when I got anxious. I had no idea how to answer. Justin was there and answered easily, even she answered easily. I just got confused and had no idea. So even things like that, that perhaps I would be able to talk about, I get mixed up and confused and just shut down. As I said in Jenna's reply, her other resources are essentially useless to me. I emailed her back and attempted to explain that I do want to work on things but I am not allowed to speak about certain things, but that was likely irrelevant because I won't meet her standards. Then apologised for wasting her time. So I assume that is pretty much that. Oh well. Thank you both. <3
Auror. Camden Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA	Please do not give me virtual hugs unless you are only using the hug function on threads. Thanks. You can't always keep it separate. This is happening, this is part of you.