Thank you all very much for your replies.
Liv - yes, he does. I am openly gay at work, make gay jokes about myself as banter etc etc. He has never said anything like this before even though he has known I'm gay from the start, which is another reason it was shocked me. I agree I don't think he meant it as homophobic, or more accurately didn't realise he was being homophobic. But to me it feels like he was saying gay people are 'less than'. I won't let it mar my whole opinion of my work place. I have thought about talking to him but i don't feel confident enough too (confrontation isn't my strong point) and I also would not want to have that conversation without someone else there.
Carmen - My workplace is rather small (at most 15 people in the office) so I worry about stirring things up to much by saying something. As it is I am the only one affected, if I say something more people will be affected.
Thank you aubergine - I know not all Christians are like him, far from it. there is a tiny minority who are horrible and many many more who are like you. I have many christian friends and family members who accept me, which in a way makes what he said worse - If other people can practice their religion without being homophobic why can't he? Homophobia is a choice.
I agree if he want's to have that opinion fine, it's his opinion, but he shouldn't vocalize it. I also don't think talking to my boss would be 'wrong', but it is very possible it might be the wrong option for me at work.
I have a lot of thinking to do. The colleague I confided in has offered to talk to my boss for me. I still don't know what I want to do.
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