Originally Posted by
ThePrincessOfDenial
Personally I think there should be an entire site dedicated to it, not just a thread.
Then why not make a site yourself with input from others, dedicated for that alone? Working as explained on here or similar?
Why is it the responsibility of ryl?
Id say its probably easier for other people, not connected to ryl, in general, to find it and would make more people benefit from it. Im sure many people find certain things triggering without having anhistory of self harm.
Personally i find it odd that people on here tend to focus on sexual abuse as triggering and self harm. Physical stuff. As an abuse victim both in sexually but also physical abuse, maybe even more so physical non sexual though, i find certain things such as domestic abuse to be triggering at times. But more than the violence i react to the psychological abuse that it also consists of.
And honestly, its hard to find a film not including violence these days. I guess, ijust really cant see where the line goes. Because then i dont react to what can be seen as "normally" triggering stuff but i react to certain things being said and so on. Tbh in spite of having been a victim in some horribly violent situations i quite like violent films, music, books and so on. Macabre murder, torture and i love horror films with kids involved because thats creepier even though that often means horrible things has happened to the kids. Rape scenes doesnt bother me nor does violent scenes. Again, its the psychological factors i find triggering. And those appear in many films without me being able to prepare for it or being listed on the back of a film or whatever.
My mum who has experienced no abuse cant stand watching films and scenes in films i really enjoy. Everyone has personal limits and who knows where those start and stop? You say making aware of obvious triggering things but i cant help but think that these are obvious and normal TO YOU where my triggers i see as normal and obvious. I feel that a list like that could go on forever and ever. It seems that your list is only really to avoid the triggers that appears from physical abuse and so on where i think a lot of people are triggered by non physical stuff. And for your list to be fulfilling, youd really have to go through a shiit load of films because people watch old films on tv all the time. Its not just new films.
I guess from how i see it, considering that people find different things triggering it should probably have most films in it with different descriptions of what the particular person found triggering. What situation, what it in olved etc. Which would in itself be a spoiler. Because why is people getting triggered by rape any different than a person getting triggered by their extreme fear of clowns because there is a clown in the background in one scene.
This list would be based on what you find triggering, not what actually necessarily IS triggering. what if people find unusual things triggering? Would it still go on the list?
I dont think there is anyway this can be fulfilling anyway. I guess its obvious you dont watch an american action film if you find shooting triggering, that you dont watch a film with giant spiders if spiders trigger you and so on. But even with a list like this, you could end up in the same position because there is no way you can safeguard yourself other than by not watching films, tv series and so on.
Also, why not make a book list as well. And one with tv series with each episode with triggering content and the second they appear. Or maybe a list of all songs including anything offensive or possibly triggering. Or stay in your home in fear of experiencing anything triggering.
I get how it is experiencing things like this but i also think that there are ways to find out these things already and that even how many lists made you still risk ending up triggered.
Personally i get flashbacks from certain words being said in certain ways. I know there is no possible way to avoid or be prepared for that except isolating myself so i work on ways to cope when they do appear. And that is not an easy thing but if i never get triggered, i will never learn to cope with those situations in healthy ways. And that is coming from someone who almost died from a suicide attempt done in a flashback before anyone tells me i clearly dont know how hard and dangerous it can be.
Anyway, though i am against the whole thing in general because i dont think anyone can really deem what is triggering and what is not because thats as different as the people, i think that if you feel tehre should be an entire site for it, make it. But it is not the responsibility of RYL.