There comes a point in your life when you realise that :
If you keep having these dysfunctional relationships with a lot of people, there is something that you might be doing that is causing them.
Now I'm not trying to be all mean and hardball here, but you need to analyse yourself and your behavior. Sometimes if you treat yourself like crap, it's like other people sense that and they start thinking your not much better either.
It sounds like your illness is a real factor. But you need to try to understand yourself (while not delving into self-loathing... I know that can be hard) and figure out how you interact with people and what is going wrong.
Family members can be crap and because they have been around you for years their comfort levels at are a high and it's like they become so content with each other they can become even more self centred and less sympathetic. Not always the case, but might be here. What I'm trying to say is when it comes to families, they are in a league of their own. Which can really suck.
You need to interact with people, but in a face to face environment. Join a book club or a bloody Mahjong group or something. Life is a constant school of learning where you build your experiences and that way know how to deal better with situations that arise in the future.
You don't seem like a bad person. You don't seem dumb either because you realise there is something askew. I wish you the best of luck.
Take care.
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