Originally Posted by
ThePrincessOfDenial
Jenna gets annoyed at me for not being able to make decisions! I don't know if it's a BPD thing though.
Originally Posted by
Auror.
But if I say yes, then perhaps if they asked something like, "Well would you prefer Indian or pizza, both sound really good to me," then that also makes it a bit easier.
As I know either is something my friend wants to do so there really isn't a wrong choice. But it is also narrowed down enough that I'm not too overwhelmed
This is a super-good point! I certainly think a lot of J's indecision comes from worrying about choosing something that I won't like.
My friend has this thing called "principal of the cakes", where you imagine there's a piece of carrot cake and a piece of chocolate cake and someone selects the carrot cake, because they think the other person will want the chocolate, even though they want the chocolate cake, and the other person wanted the carrot cake but goes along with it because they think the first person obviously preferred the carrot cake and they don't want to inconvenience the other. Point being, both people lost out because they were too busy trying to please the other, and so whenever my friend says principal of the cakes, I have to honestly state a preference and not try to be polite. Something like that could maybe help people who struggle to make decisions because of fear of it not being what the other person wants. Concerned I've gone on a complete tangent there (and also, who the hell likes carrot cake??), so sorry if that's completely irrelevant =S