You are allowed to tell your therapist that you dont find certain things a problem like the way you dress. That it is a part of your personality and a part that you like. You have a say in what you discuss but you of course have to talk and give them something to go on, rather than the way you look.
I hope you dont give up on it for good. I have had bad experiences in therapy as well as good. If you have trouble wording things, maybe something like art and music therapy would be good for you until you are ready to open more up. I find it easier to talk when you have something to go from like a painting youve made or a piece of music. You dont have to be good at these things to benefit from it. You are not there to create master pieces but to get emotions out and these ways are good ways i find. I no longer do music or art therapy but i still play cello and draw/paint at home which helps for me. But i found it helpful to do with a therapist as well where we could talk about it after if i wanted to. I also had music therapy as a group where each person chose a song that meant something to them or described how you we feeling, then we would talk about why that song meant something to you, how you feel when listening to it, how it made the others feel and think etc. I quite liked that as well.
Just because one on one talking therapy may not be right for you at the moment does not mean that there arent other types of therapy that may make more sense and be easier for you. And dont let a few bad experiences scare you off therapy for good.
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