[Morpheus]

Honestly, i think you sound a bit unreasonable and selfish.

The fact that they letyou live at home at that age is huge, not all parents would do that and i bet you can be sure, it wasnt their dream to have their 23 year old daughter living at home. By that time they would have expected you to move out and them to not have to act as parents in the same way the used to like doing your laundry etc.

The fact that you live in their house does allow them to set out rules you have to follow. They really dont have to give you reasons for those rules, their house, their terms and since you are an adult, you should follow those terme. Also, if you owe them money, that might be why they commented only to have a small coffee or whatever it was. They probably thought you had better things to spend your money on, such as paying them back or your loans.

For other adults, if you dont do your laundry, you have no clean clothes. Its as simple as that. Many people may not think they have time, but they make time. I dont see why you should be so much more busy than other people. You are lucky that your mother is doing this for you and in spite of you saying you do say thank you, your attitude in this thread, does imply that you take it for granted. This is a luxury other people do not have. And if your mum doesnt want to do it anymore, you will have to find the time to do it yourself. You cant expect her to. Maybe she feels like she doesnt have time to do your laundry as well and nor should she have to.

In the end, it is there house so you do have to follow their rules. Whether you find them unfair or not and maybe trying to put yourself in their place would be helpful too. They are letting you stay as you are their daughter and they want to help, but you can be pretty sure it is putting a strain on them as well, living with their adult child. Maybe show a bit more appreciation of what they are doing for you. Not every parent would.

Also to me, you really are overreacting if you let small things likethese ruin your weekends. And i think the fact that you refuse responsibility in these conflicts is rather unfair. Conflicts happen because people disagree, have misunderstandings, overreact and so on. Maybe your parents needed to be more specific about what they were unhappy with but you also need not to overreact to these things. To have your weekend ruined by one comment about only having a small drink is just too much and probably makes living with you pretty difficult if you react that way to other things as well.

In the end. There are other people than you that ypu need to be considerate of. They dont just have to be considerate of you. It goes both ways. Id say, be grateful for all they are doing for you and if you have issues, talk as an adult to them insteadof going sobbing in your room. That wont solve the issues you have.