I do think this is extremely controlling -even at 13/14 I was allowed to chose my own food(vegetarian), my clothes & my GCSE subjects.
You probably need to put some distance between you and her to start making your own choices.(I'm guessing you don't live at home so maybe phone less often?) You may never get her to listen, so in standing up for yourself you may have to live with her being angry or disappointed or making you feel guilty.
I think you should do it anyway, because you don't have much chance of happiness with someone else running your life. I imagine this could be difficult and you may want to seek some support from a counselor to make the changes.
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