My mom and I used to have a relationship kind of like that--I always did what she wanted me to and I let her walk all over me. If you wait for your mother to change, you'll be controlled by her forever. You have the right to do what you want to with your life. If your mother is upset by that, that's her problem. It's hard because the relationship with your mom is really important to you--it's natural to want your mother to be happy with what you do. But it's not worth giving your life away for. Maybe your mom will eventually get happy with your actions, and maybe not. Either way, at least you'll know you're your own person. For me, it also helps to get support from other people besides my mom. I do miss having my mom's support; like you said, it's sad. But I'm happier now than I was when I let her control me. It takes time, but maybe you can start by making little choices for yourself?
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