you can't do things perfect all the time! some of the best people I know mess up 8437563 times more than you do! they just learn their lesson and move on. There's no such thing as failure for them, only eperiences and results. It's perfectly fine to make mistakes. If you stop going too hard on yourself you take away an enormous chunk of negative energy out of your life. So don't be afraid, it's fine, I promise.
Next time you feel like you're being too critical of yourself, you should say this to yourself: "it's fine, it's not the end of the world, no one's gonna hate you for this, you haven't done anything wrong, people make mistakes all the time. I proud of you for doing this, this and that, I'm proud of you for taking this little step", like a mother would say to her child (sounds a bit wierd but it works :) ) or like you would say to your best friend. Say it in a kind, loving voice. It might feel a little bit awkward at the beginning, but it's ok just keep practicing.
Don’t say something to yourself that you wouldn’t say to a friend. Don't speak to yourself like you're your worst enemy.
That's how you build Self Esteem (the real kind).
Try not to focus on all the negative stuff, (yeah I know it's easier to say than to do), make an effort to shift your attention off obsessing over all the bad things in your life (we all have them), focus on all the good stuff instead!
You keep your focus on bullies and being miserable - you end up having more of it. What you seek you shall find.
Stay strong, you deserve to be happy xx
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