Not having read the thread in question, I'm not going to comment on that.
However, does there need to be a separation of "advice" and "support", like some have suggested? Surely the best replies would have a bit of both.
I know that I get annoyed when people don't take responsibility for themselves, because ultimately I know that if they don't nothing will change. Having said that, I know that not everyone is of the same mind frame as me and some people simply want to bury their heads. What people NEED to hear is very rarely that same as what they WANT to hear, and sometimes that should be challenged. By and large they'll appreciate it in the long run. Sometimes I feel that RYL enables people and almost encourages people to wallow with it's culture of *hugs* and "don't worry, that's okay" cultures.
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