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Rodolphus · 22-11-2013, 02:51 AM

I kind of agree with the notion of if a person asks you to stop replying/reply in a different way, then you should respect that. If you go back for another shot at 'tough love' after it's been expressed that it's not appropriate at that time, then that's not okay. I know I've found myself wanting to post 'pull yourself together and deal with it' type replies before, but felt I shouldn't and left it be, and it is frustrating when you feel as though your time and advice and support have been totally ignored, but I know that sometimes it happens for various reasons and that's the nature of situation.

I know, personally, why I prefer to give practical advice rather than 'hugs' alone - because that's what I always want when I post. I honestly find posts looking purely for emotional support/hugs difficult to reply to as I know it may become quite circular, but I also understand that often, a person might just need that affirmation that there is someone listening and acknowledging their feelings. Wow, I think I've gone majorly off topic.

All I'm trying to say, is that I can understand why people try to give the 'tough love' approach, but I think that after it's been established that it won't be helpful then it becomes rude and inappropriate and that needs to stop.

(Hoping I don't sound like a douche and/or total wally)

22-11-2013, 02:51 AM	#24
Rodolphus #Azkafam Join Date: Jan 2009	I kind of agree with the notion of if a person asks you to stop replying/reply in a different way, then you should respect that. If you go back for another shot at 'tough love' after it's been expressed that it's not appropriate at that time, then that's not okay. I know I've found myself wanting to post 'pull yourself together and deal with it' type replies before, but felt I shouldn't and left it be, and it is frustrating when you feel as though your time and advice and support have been totally ignored, but I know that sometimes it happens for various reasons and that's the nature of situation. I know, personally, why I prefer to give practical advice rather than 'hugs' alone - because that's what I always want when I post. I honestly find posts looking purely for emotional support/hugs difficult to reply to as I know it may become quite circular, but I also understand that often, a person might just need that affirmation that there is someone listening and acknowledging their feelings. Wow, I think I've gone majorly off topic. All I'm trying to say, is that I can understand why people try to give the 'tough love' approach, but I think that after it's been established that it won't be helpful then it becomes rude and inappropriate and that needs to stop. (Hoping I don't sound like a douche and/or total wally)
Rodolphus #Azkafam Join Date: Jan 2009	Now I'll play your ghost as my ace, whenever I'm led astray. But I am actually good, can't help it if we're tilted. I'm in my right place, don't be a downer.