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griddlebone · 22-11-2013, 01:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Narcissa

I think I agree with this, in the context of internet forums. I do believe there's a time and place for persistent tough love (when balanced with lots of actual love too!), but I don't think here is the place, especially between people who are practically strangers. I think unless it's coming from someone who really knows you and is a big part of your life, it will not be effective and probably do more harm than good.
I also think there's a real possibility that some people think 'tough love' is synonymous with being downright rude, and use 'tough love' as justification for getting frustrated with someone and being pernickety and snipe-y at them and it gives genuine tough love a bad name!

I said I was going to stop talking and I just talked more -.-

I agree completely! It is definitely the case that some people think that approach is rude and there is a lot of the using tough love as justification going around at the moment.

As an aside, I have read other threads and caught up with the reasons behind this thread, however I think that if its seen objectively without making it person this is a very important discussion to have and one that has been brewing for quite a while now.

22-11-2013, 01:25 AM	#23
griddlebone Head of Chat/Forum Mod. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: London. I am currently:	Quote: Originally Posted by Narcissa I think I agree with this, in the context of internet forums. I do believe there's a time and place for persistent tough love (when balanced with lots of actual love too!), but I don't think here is the place, especially between people who are practically strangers. I think unless it's coming from someone who really knows you and is a big part of your life, it will not be effective and probably do more harm than good. I also think there's a real possibility that some people think 'tough love' is synonymous with being downright rude, and use 'tough love' as justification for getting frustrated with someone and being pernickety and snipe-y at them and it gives genuine tough love a bad name! I said I was going to stop talking and I just talked more -.- I agree completely! It is definitely the case that some people think that approach is rude and there is a lot of the using tough love as justification going around at the moment. As an aside, I have read other threads and caught up with the reasons behind this thread, however I think that if its seen objectively without making it person this is a very important discussion to have and one that has been brewing for quite a while now.
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