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Lone Star · 07-11-2013, 11:22 AM

I personally don't think that's a bad thing to wish or have desires for a baby. In fact, I think it's pretty normal to want to have a baby or kids, especially when someone hits mid 20's and when they start getting scared of the 30's. At the end of the day, it's reality that sets people back, not the actual fact that you know, it's not a stork that's gonna give you a baby all willy nilly. It's perfectly normal to have desires to procreate, not just have sex recreationally, but also being responsible for a life that you have created with your own blood. It's normal for both males and females. Food for thought; I've been wanting to be a father since I was 16/18 ish. Growing up, I saw a lot of "couples" have kids at that age and I was jealous, mostly because I was lonely, I wanted to feel loved, I wanted to feel significant, I wanted to be like everyone else... So I always wanted to be a father. Now I wasn't gonna get someone pregnant just to fulfill that wish; plus I know it would be harder for me to get full custody, so it's not something that can be fixed like a desire for pleasure is. I'm 21 now and reality of the matter is that I'm not economically stable to start a family, much less even desirable... I mean I have certain type of marks on me due to a certain thing I used to do, so who would want to carry the child of a male that was "mentally unstable" at one point? Being a male that used to SH is very hard, especially when you're seen as someone with baggage because of it. Anyways, I don't mean to go much into that; the basic point is that the feeling of a child that's yours, that you have your blood and chromosomes in is a very enjoyable feeling... some even say it makes people turn their life around, or rethink what is personally important, the problem though is that sometimes the same stress can keep us in the situation that got us into this forum.

I don't want to seem like a jerk or anything, but have you considered getting a pet? I know it's definitely not the same thing but sometimes we as humans seek companion or meaning within our lives, which makes us "think" that by having a child, we mean something to someone or that we have someone that's gonna love us no matter what, or... well you know, that basis of love and attachment.

Just something to think about.

07-11-2013, 11:22 AM	#8
Lone Star Lone Star Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Tha Hood	I personally don't think that's a bad thing to wish or have desires for a baby. In fact, I think it's pretty normal to want to have a baby or kids, especially when someone hits mid 20's and when they start getting scared of the 30's. At the end of the day, it's reality that sets people back, not the actual fact that you know, it's not a stork that's gonna give you a baby all willy nilly. It's perfectly normal to have desires to procreate, not just have sex recreationally, but also being responsible for a life that you have created with your own blood. It's normal for both males and females. Food for thought; I've been wanting to be a father since I was 16/18 ish. Growing up, I saw a lot of "couples" have kids at that age and I was jealous, mostly because I was lonely, I wanted to feel loved, I wanted to feel significant, I wanted to be like everyone else... So I always wanted to be a father. Now I wasn't gonna get someone pregnant just to fulfill that wish; plus I know it would be harder for me to get full custody, so it's not something that can be fixed like a desire for pleasure is. I'm 21 now and reality of the matter is that I'm not economically stable to start a family, much less even desirable... I mean I have certain type of marks on me due to a certain thing I used to do, so who would want to carry the child of a male that was "mentally unstable" at one point? Being a male that used to SH is very hard, especially when you're seen as someone with baggage because of it. Anyways, I don't mean to go much into that; the basic point is that the feeling of a child that's yours, that you have your blood and chromosomes in is a very enjoyable feeling... some even say it makes people turn their life around, or rethink what is personally important, the problem though is that sometimes the same stress can keep us in the situation that got us into this forum. I don't want to seem like a jerk or anything, but have you considered getting a pet? I know it's definitely not the same thing but sometimes we as humans seek companion or meaning within our lives, which makes us "think" that by having a child, we mean something to someone or that we have someone that's gonna love us no matter what, or... well you know, that basis of love and attachment. Just something to think about.