Aaaaaaaaannndd
This is exactly why I don't buy into the whole DBT and meds crap. This is where I say loads of really unimportant and useless things like "start focusing on loving yourself" etc and I understand it's easier said than done. The massive thing with BPD I think is developing a strong support network. People who're genuine and who will give you a bit of support and a cuddle if you need it. I think therapists forget that a *massive* part of BPD relies on the external rather than the internal, and so if you manage to have someone there to sort of hold your hand, and encourage you, the mindfulness and distractions will seem easier, the thoughts and fears will begin to fade, and you'll become a lot more stable.
Again, not easy to do. Developing support networks doesn't just happen, but it's well worth insuring you invest the time in meeting friends, and explaining things and working on being as patient and as clear as you can with them so that they're less likely to misinterpret your actions.
In my eyes, people with BPD just want unconditional love... I really hope you meet someone who can provide it.
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