The trouble is, as horrible as this situation has been, its probably a vital learning curve, having your photo on your profile, real name and other info will also mean some people may assume they can use the info.
Of course contacting someone other than your husband, although the message was intended for your husband, is out of order but hopefully now you can prevent anything like this happening again and keep some anonymity online to protect yourself.
If you don't want the info to be used at all, keep it private. That said, I understand the upset this has caused and I can see why the way they went about telling your husband has caused a lot of further distress. Generally anyone who genuinely cares would speak to you first and explain who they were telling and why. Its very hard because sometimes people feel they need to 'do' something or inform someone, but there are ways of going about this that limit the damage; usually this is down to who exactly they are telling.
I once rang social services regarding someone being abused and gave the information/school/name and left it with them. Telling relatives is complex; telling other people who don't need to know is just not on.
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