im sorry, thats a really sucky situation to be in *hug*
you can't control what they do, but you can control what you do... sometimes when things are hard we start to be really passive about them, letting things happen to us, and if we can start being active, and making things happen, we feel a little more steady... now, the only person you can control is yourself, so it would be a waste of effort to try to change the other person. but in this situation you might do something like send a brief, calm email explaining that you've waited for them so many times and they haven't come on, and how you're feeling, and that you aren't going to wait around more. you could offer to keep up contact via email, and then see what happens, but it would be silly for you to keep waiting for them which makes you feel worse when they don't show up, and also keeps you from doing things which could make you feel better, or more connected to the people around you... i understand that it may hurt a lot to stop waiting for them, but sometimes we've got to let relationships change form or fade away. nothing, especially not relationships, stays constant and unchanging. the worst thing that can happen here is for you to get stuck hanging on for a relationship that never comes back the way you want it to and leaves you missing out on other relationships you could have
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