Maybe that's just not a great site for you? I've never used a dating site but that amount of odd quirkiness seems like it would be unusual.
As for what to say when first messaging someone, like was said above, I'd start with the things you know you have in common from your profiles and go from there. A first message probably doesn't have to be long. I'd just note a common interest and share a little about how I relate. Adding a question or two about them too might help show that you're interested in knowing more about them and gives them something to reply with. Probably just something like "Hi, I'm Sarah. I was looking at your profile and I saw that you like hiking a lot. I love hiking. Have you ever been hiking at this one place? I used to go there a lot with my friend. It's beautiful there. Where is you're favorite place to hike?" Or like, "Hi, I'm Sarah. I saw that you're going to nursing school. I'm going into the medical field too. I'd like to become a lab technician. Right now I'm doing an internship at this one hospital. What made you want to go into nursing?" And then hope he messages back and just continue on with other questions about life. Interests, hobbies, favorites, things you dream of doing one day, family and pets, careers, you know, just get to know each other. :)
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