Something that's helped me and my partner was having a planned list of things to do/try before resorting to self harm. Making a deal with yourself that you have to try everything on that list before giving in.
Her list contains such things as; phoning her CPN, going for a walk, spending 30 mins on the Wii fit dance game, ringing her mum or talking to me, making hot chocolate and practicing self soothe techniques [candles and music, fluffy blanket, and teddy], writing down how she feels, cuddling our cat, looking through photo albums of happier times and planning a 'fun day' where we'd eat out, go somewhere nice, bake cakes or see a film.
Other ideas could be colouring books, using fun and distractions, chatting on here or replying to threads [I find this distracting, but that may just be me], creating a playlist of music for your ipod/phone etc, watching a series back to back or making craft things/cards.
It can be short term or long term, but having to do things before resorting to harmful behaviours can give you a bumper zone where there is opportunities to feel better, change your mind or at least seek support.
I think Sophia's idea of taking a risk then self discharging if you do end up in the ward that is very unhelpful, is a good one, maybe that would be worth considering.
Further to what has already been mentioned, do you have practical plans in place for when you self harm? I mean, is there someone who can take you to hospital if needed. Here we have planned that I am in the house when my partner self harms, and I know what is going on so she can scream for me if she's in trouble, all the first aid/cohesive bandages are out, and the phone is in the room so I can call/help at the same time. We always have £20 on the side for taxi's and all the possible phone contacts needed are saved on our phones.
I don't know anything about your living situation, but had supported accomodation ever been considered for you.
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