Originally Posted by
xdreamchaserx
Thank you. He says it's because the people I'm with aren't the type of people he wants to be around. They're lovely though, and I like where I am just now.. but I don't want it to affect his happiness as well. I'm not sure what I'm meant to do to eliminate the problem other than moving.. which I don't have money to do. He's too stubborn to accept professional help.. but I will try my best.
Thank you so much for your reply.
Hmm... Personally I don't think that you should have to move just because he doesn't like the type of people you are with. I understand that you want him to be happy too though, which shows you are a very caring person. What is it about the people that he doesn't like? He does sound to be quite stubborn but I think ultimately he would eventually settle down if he realised he had too. Is it just very recently that you have moved or has this been going on for a while? Unless there is a legitimate reason for him to dislike the people and want to move away then I believe you shouldn't have to move just to make him happy, however if he is resorting to harmful things to deal with this then it really is important to get him some professional help. There's only so much you can do to combat psychological issues I'm afraid, and allowing him to avoid the things he dislikes wont help him in longterm!
I really think the best thing to do would be to sit down and talk it out to come to some sort of agreement or compromise. You really need to get to the bottom of this and find out what, apart from moving, can be done to help him feel more comfortable. Find a time when he is relaxed and comfortable and isn't likely to reject all suggestions!