I know you feel a little bad not wanting to have sex after buying things, but I think it's important that you not allow yourself to feel pressured. It sounds very stressful if the voices and such are the only reason you feel uncomfortable. I know talking isn't everyone's' thing during sex, but I think communicating about how you're feeling is important. If you think it might help, you could suggest beforehand that he give you some positive verbal support if you're finding it hard to focus, such as compliments that go against what the voices say or just comforting and reassuring words that you're safe and that he's there for you. As for seeing scary things, would it help to maybe view some nice photos videos beforehand? I don't know if this is similar at all but, for instance, I like watching kid shows or a very lighthearted comedy after watching a scary movie to get my mind of of it. Having dim light instead of complete darkness might also help ground you if these images seem more like thoughts than real life.
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