I've been where you are. When my scars started to fade first time round I went back to self harming and made them so much worse. I look back on it now and wish I could go back in time and give myself a major ass kicking.
I think when we've been ill for so long scars become part of our identity. Almost as a way we'd describe ourselves; brown hair, blue eyes, arm/insert other body part covered in scars.
But its important to recognise the person under all that. Self harm and scars aren't just who you are. If they fade it doesn't change the fact you went through hell and beat that. It just means you're moving on, you're healing and your body is showing you that.
As well as the advice above try listing 5-10 things about you and about who/what you are without recovering self harmer in that list. Positive things only, yeah ;)
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