Originally Posted by
Buttons.
I agree that cliques will always happen and are a natural part of human nature, however how much those cliques choose to take responsibility and prevent others from feeling uncomfortable varies from clique to clique and I do think that even if there is no ill intent people need to take responsibility for their actions ad words, and their effect on others. I'm not referring to any group in particular just think it is something to be aware of as it is easy for a clique to unintentionally alienate people then become defensive if someone outside of the 'group' challenges their dynamic.
I'm getting bored of people saying "I'm not talking about any clique in particular". It's kind of annoying.
See, I think there's a big difference between a community coming together and deciding on rules, and a community coming together to discuss how they don't like certain people and how they feel alienated by them. Like, I didn't like the fact that when we started getting old London meets going again a few years ago and 'older' members were just like 'eww, new members, ceeb for that', and then when they finally started attending meets they sat at a separate table and didn't really talk to us. However, that's the way they choose to behave and I felt excluded and upset but so what? They weren't breaking any rules towards me, that's just the way the clique mentality worked at the time. What do you suggest we do? Force members to like every other member, to talk to every other member? To carefully make sure that they equally distribute their time between every single board and every single member so as to make everything fair? I was going to say that this sounds like primary school politics, but even at ten years old I was told by my teacher that it was OK if I didn't want to play with a certain person on the yard every day.
I think it's arrogant and wrong of people to challenge a certain group's dynamic, but go ahead and do it if you want but as a top tip, I imagine they'd take it better if they were challenged politely. Saying "I think your friendship group is pathetic" isn't the greatest way to get a discussion going.