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MagpieBlues · 03-01-2013, 11:57 PM

I'm sorry to hear you're having so many difficulties and worries at the moment.

It must be incredibly frustrating trying to go to appointments and them getting cancelled - they can't keep doing that forever though so sooner or later you will be able to have an app. Do they give a reason for cancelling?

It sounds like you're really concerned about these things going on, so it's important to be able to talk to someone about it. Do you live in the US? I'm not sure how it works over there but over here we can go and see a GP. Even if you go see your GP in the mean time before you (finally) get your app at the clinic, then you could tell them about what's been going on for you.

It may be helpful to write everything down that you're concerned about, so when you get to the app you don't forget anything if you're mind is all over the place. Sort of like a bullet point list of the different things you're experiencing/things you're worried about as a reminder.

I know it can be tempting to leave therapy/MH support before it's finished, but I think if you really want to work on these issues then it's important to go the distance and not bail, as tempting as that may be. It can be really hard and tough sometimes, especially if you don't completely see eye to eye. But maybe if you keep stressing your worries then they will have to listen to you and not just dismiss it.

Maybe print off this thread and show the person you go see, because you seem to have explained things quite well here.

And with your parents, from other people I have spoken to as parents, it is much more worrying when you don't know whats wrong than when you know whats wrong. At least if they know whats wrong and the extent of things, they can try to deal with it and support you better, if that's what you need. They are not crappy parents - just sometimes people suffer with MH and sometimes people don't. Yeah, your life experiences have something to do with it, and I don't want to make assumptions, but it sounds like you've suffered a pretty big trauma with the abuse, and that's not your parents fault. I would try not to worry about them - they are your parents and they are adults; they can look after themselves. It's you that you need to focus on right now.

And I'm sorry I don't have any focusing techniques, my brain is pretty scrambled at the moment as well, but I really do wish you the world of luck.

Let us know if you get to the app and how it goes, yeah.

Take care.

03-01-2013, 11:57 PM	#4
MagpieBlues Maria Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: West Midlands	I'm sorry to hear you're having so many difficulties and worries at the moment. It must be incredibly frustrating trying to go to appointments and them getting cancelled - they can't keep doing that forever though so sooner or later you will be able to have an app. Do they give a reason for cancelling? It sounds like you're really concerned about these things going on, so it's important to be able to talk to someone about it. Do you live in the US? I'm not sure how it works over there but over here we can go and see a GP. Even if you go see your GP in the mean time before you (finally) get your app at the clinic, then you could tell them about what's been going on for you. It may be helpful to write everything down that you're concerned about, so when you get to the app you don't forget anything if you're mind is all over the place. Sort of like a bullet point list of the different things you're experiencing/things you're worried about as a reminder. I know it can be tempting to leave therapy/MH support before it's finished, but I think if you really want to work on these issues then it's important to go the distance and not bail, as tempting as that may be. It can be really hard and tough sometimes, especially if you don't completely see eye to eye. But maybe if you keep stressing your worries then they will have to listen to you and not just dismiss it. Maybe print off this thread and show the person you go see, because you seem to have explained things quite well here. And with your parents, from other people I have spoken to as parents, it is much more worrying when you don't know whats wrong than when you know whats wrong. At least if they know whats wrong and the extent of things, they can try to deal with it and support you better, if that's what you need. They are not crappy parents - just sometimes people suffer with MH and sometimes people don't. Yeah, your life experiences have something to do with it, and I don't want to make assumptions, but it sounds like you've suffered a pretty big trauma with the abuse, and that's not your parents fault. I would try not to worry about them - they are your parents and they are adults; they can look after themselves. It's you that you need to focus on right now. And I'm sorry I don't have any focusing techniques, my brain is pretty scrambled at the moment as well, but I really do wish you the world of luck. Let us know if you get to the app and how it goes, yeah. Take care.