Throughout your life you've learnt to avoid crying, so understandably this could take a while to unlearn. Be gentle with yourself, it's hard to learn to feel and think differently.
Sometimes I still feel things that I know aren't true. I can either choose to entertain those feelings and spiral downwards into lies... or I can choose to concentrate on facts, on logic, on truth and avoid allow my feelings to get the better of me. It's hard, and take time but it's possible. Kind of like repeating a mantra that doesn't feel true, eventually you start to believe it. After all that's often how we've come to believe these feelings anyway (by people, or ourselves constantly reinforcing them)
Don't feel you need to make yourself cry. Perhaps you could just repeat to yourself that it's ok to cry if you need to, that it's not a weakness but a strength, that it's a healthy release of emotions etc... You're unlikely to feel any different to start with but over time you'll likely start to believe it.
What do you think you're struggling to go back to counselling now? x
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