Maybe I'm just an impulsive person, but planning suicide weeks in advance is a ironic. If you have made the decision with pure certainty, what is the wait for? Other than to see if someone will attempt to change their mind?
I'm all for people saying they feel suicidal, have been planning suicide, or even have a date they are THINKING of. But to state a decision has been made is unfair. And to say when that date is, to me, cruel on other people.
I'm not saying I don't understand the ways and chains of events that people experiance leading up to posting such things, but the community has to be protected to remain supportive and productive. I'd be put off supporting someone who has made the choice already, even if I feel compelled to reply, it creates unfairness that I may not wish to or feel able to reply, but the human nature of caring may then compel me to. That is to me, how it becomes unfair.
I have personally experianced many people on RYL saying they're going to do xyz on x day and have become somewhat blunt towards it, unless I know the person very well and could actually help tangibly.
I guess this rule is for the majority of people who when looking at such threads would have no tools to help tangibly. Besides, if the person was well known, surely the information would be expressed or conversed over in private, outside of RYL.
I'd be interested in how the new rule would be defined however.
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