I take it you don't want a baby? Do you know what you want to do? Do you want to carry it to term? If so, do you want to keep it or give it up for adoption? I take it this has happened before... what did you do last time? How do you feel about that, and do you want to handle it the same way this time?
And what about the father? Do you know who he is? Is it someone you want to raise a child with?
Sorry if any of those questions sounded judgmental or anything -- they're definitely not, I was just trying to cover all the options I could think of... and while I'm not always the greatest at communicating these things, my intent just to cover all the options I could think of, and hopefully communicate that I'm okay with all of them, cause I am, it's just that as I've been away from RYL for a long time and only just come back, I don't yet know you well enough to know what to ask about (for instance, asking if you know who the father is, which is probably what I'm most worried about asking, isn't meant to suggest either that I think you might not know, or that you should -- some people might not be sure who it is, while for others, there's only one person it could be, and it seems ridiculous to even suggest there could be any doubt about it... or it could be anywhere in-between -- it's totally fine either way, but I simply don't know enough to even know whether or not to ask, so I figured I'd ask everything and take my chances). So basically, I really want to help, I support you 100% no matter what the circumstances, and am not about to judge you for them or anything, I just don't know what I can say to try to support you without knowing more about what's going on. And, I mean, personally, I'm waiting until marriage (but can't wait to have kids after that), my sister has been living with her boyfriend since before either of them was old enough to drink, and currently they are sharing a single bed in my mom's house (officially -- he doesn't have a bed anywhere else, except his parents' house in another city, hours away... and it was my mom's idea for him to move in, too), my mom is sleeping with a married man (and no, not her husband, even though she and my dad were happily married for nearly 30 years until he died in an accident just under two years ago), my friend just found out she's pregnant by a man she's most likely going to divorce soon, and with whom she already has an 11-month-old, and several of my friends have had any number of "one night stands" and such, with guys who's names they may or may not know, and who they may or may not be friends with... and I'm fine with all of it. So point is, whatever the circumstances, I'm not going to judge you or anything like that, and the only reason I asked the questions I did is that there's quite a range of possible circumstances, and it's hard to support you without more information, and I wanted to make sure I covered as much as I could.
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