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The One Who · 24-08-2012, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by ~invisible~girl~

But there aren't that many available jobs of any kind that I'm at all qualified for within reasonable driving distance of where I live, let alone ones that are at all related to what I actually want to do. And even for volunteering, the organizations I'd want to work for seem to just take one look at my resume and through it out the window

Can you consider moving away to find work? Not always possible, I know.

As for the volunteering, you may need to consider looking at places you don't particularly want to work for. You may need to lower your expectations a little bit.

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Originally Posted by ~invisible~girl~

I've decided that employers are idiots, and don't know what they're missing. Ali, I think you're in a similar position, that we both applied for jobs we're really good at, and probably would have been way better at than whoever they ultimately end up with, but they weren't willing to give us a chance even without finding someone else with a more impressive resume.

Re-apply. If they aren't specifying the "previous applicants need not apply", then try again. Change up your application and be explicit in how you meet each and every criteria they are asking for.

There's nothing wrong with having confidence in your ability, but if it's making you resentful then maybe you need to change your attitude a little bit. We'd all love to get that perfect job straight away, but lots of people need to do a lot of crappy legwork to get there. If that's what you need to do, then you need to do it. It might make you appreciate the final job more as well.

I really don't think it's helpful to consider yourself "better" than the other applicants, or who eventually gets the job. There was obviously a reason that they did, and you never saw their application or know their experiences.

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and probably more significantly, I'm a small, affluent, young (and even younger-looking), white female, and while I can handle just about anything a school-age (i.e. 5-12 year old) child can throw at me, the streets near where I live can be pretty rough, most 14-year-olds from the ethnic groups that make up most of the local low-income population are significantly larger than I am, and I just don't have the physical or interpersonal strength or skill to deal with some of the situations that can develop with troubled teens.

They should train you in physical restrain techniques, if those are going to be necessary. You could also look into doing some martial arts (judo maybe?) to help build your own skills, and perhaps increase your confidence with being around them.

24-08-2012, 09:25 AM	#6
The One Who Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Somewhere I am currently:	Quote: Originally Posted by ~invisible~girl~ But there aren't that many available jobs of any kind that I'm at all qualified for within reasonable driving distance of where I live, let alone ones that are at all related to what I actually want to do. And even for volunteering, the organizations I'd want to work for seem to just take one look at my resume and through it out the window Can you consider moving away to find work? Not always possible, I know. As for the volunteering, you may need to consider looking at places you don't particularly want to work for. You may need to lower your expectations a little bit. Quote: Originally Posted by ~invisible~girl~ I've decided that employers are idiots, and don't know what they're missing. Ali, I think you're in a similar position, that we both applied for jobs we're really good at, and probably would have been way better at than whoever they ultimately end up with, but they weren't willing to give us a chance even without finding someone else with a more impressive resume. Re-apply. If they aren't specifying the "previous applicants need not apply", then try again. Change up your application and be explicit in how you meet each and every criteria they are asking for. There's nothing wrong with having confidence in your ability, but if it's making you resentful then maybe you need to change your attitude a little bit. We'd all love to get that perfect job straight away, but lots of people need to do a lot of crappy legwork to get there. If that's what you need to do, then you need to do it. It might make you appreciate the final job more as well. I really don't think it's helpful to consider yourself "better" than the other applicants, or who eventually gets the job. There was obviously a reason that they did, and you never saw their application or know their experiences. Quote: and probably more significantly, I'm a small, affluent, young (and even younger-looking), white female, and while I can handle just about anything a school-age (i.e. 5-12 year old) child can throw at me, the streets near where I live can be pretty rough, most 14-year-olds from the ethnic groups that make up most of the local low-income population are significantly larger than I am, and I just don't have the physical or interpersonal strength or skill to deal with some of the situations that can develop with troubled teens. They should train you in physical restrain techniques, if those are going to be necessary. You could also look into doing some martial arts (judo maybe?) to help build your own skills, and perhaps increase your confidence with being around them.