Originally Posted by
talaiporia
I think that though plans had been made, they hadn't been confirmed. I can think of many cases in my life where events/plan had fallen through. I do not think there was anything 'set in stone', so the fact he hadn't replied should have been confirmation/an assumption that nothing would happen.
"It sounds like he was spending time with his son, which may have been why he couldn't make it "
It does not take anyone 5 mins or less to send a quick text or fb message saying they couldnt make it
He didn't say he was going to go, he suggested it. It was always only a maybe. You made an assumption, and then blamed him for it.
It sounds like he was spending time with his son, which may have been why he couldn't make it - particularly as his son had had a fairly big life event that day. To be honest, I think he would have been more of a jerk if he'd dumped his son to have a few drinks with you, but you detracted from what should have been a very special moment for his son, who had nothing to do with this.
Taking full responsibility would mean letting this go, I feel, and moving on.
I know that you are very upset, but I don't feel that he has done anything wrong, as plans fall through (particularly when children are involved). But perhaps I've missed something.
Take care.
"It sounds like he was spending time with his son, which may have been why he couldn't make it "
It does not take anyone 5 mins or less to send a quick text or fb message saying they couldnt make it, He never at any point at all said it was a maybe or might not happen. If no one says to me specfically they are NOT going some where or cant make it then to me it's so obvious they ARE going.
"Taking full responsibility would mean letting this go, I feel, and moving on."
I admit my actions 100% and am endevouring to work through it of course.
Thank you for being fair.