after such a long time, i think that your mother's reaction is actually very reasonable. you are both her children, she can't stop loving or caring for either of you, and she can't be totally sure of what happened. she wants you to get help, have she or you found a therapist or counselor that you could go to? i can see why you are angry that more hasn't been done, but throwing your brother out would probably cause much more of a family rift and more hurt and angry feelings for everyone.
if your brother hasn't repeated what he did in six years, i think that it is unlikely that he will now, especially since you have spoken about what happened. you need to regain your feeling of safety. having your brother totally gone is unrealistic, so you feeling safe again means reconstructing some of your relationships and facing some of your fears. take reasonable steps to prevent any future problems, but don't try to avoid him at all costs, as avoiding him will never allow you to face and work through your fear.
what evidence do you have that all your family has turned against you? what evidence shows that they haven't? it sometimes happens that we pick up on the negatives but not on the things that show that people beleive us and care about us.
also, i think that it would probably be good for you if you could learn to see your brother in a new way. there is no excuse for what he did to you, but that doesn't mean that he is a monster or that he doesn't have any redeeming qualities. whenever we see people as one dimensional, whether in a good way or a bad way, we do ourselves and them a disservice. people are complicated. don't oversimplify.
|