I have struggled with forgiving myself a lot in the past couple years. I am very hard on myself and need constant reminders that I don't need to be. Life is easier if you can accept mistakes and forgive yourself. Needless to say, I haven't been very good at this.
I haven't told my parents about any of my struggles. At one point in time this really bothered me because I felt like they don't really know who I am. Then I decided they do not need to know everything. They know who I am and accept me for that. I know they still would if I told them everything so it doesn't matter if I do or not.
Depending on the event it can take me a long time to forgive myself. It's hard to exactly define when I've completely forgiven myself and have moved on. It takes time even long after you've last thought about it.
I work on loving myself and not harming myself. My harm in the past has been a result of not forgiving myself. So when I am not harming myself in anyway (no matter how small). I'd say that I've been able to forgive myself. I might not be completely there yet and it's hard when I make another mistake. but I'm no longer letting it affect me so much on a daily basis.
I found that hearing other people tell me it was not my fault was extremely helpful. It was hard to talk about it because I am a private person but in a couple instances it's been worth it.
not sure if i've made any sense. but i do have a lot of experience learning to forgive myself. to accept mistakes. to let go of the experience and move on
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