[Kahlia1981]

As an addendum:

We have spoken about the circumstances several times we have decided to write a list of tasks that we are not willing to do and a list of what we are prepared to do IF we have time. My fiane has agreed that he's becoming frustrated by being asked .... no, not even be asked, but being expected to do tasks such as moving furniture at the drop of a hat. He's also becoming annoyed that he gets the tech support calls, and like most of them, the "diagnostics" given by SMS or phone call are useless. As an example my best friend told my fiance that she needed a new monitor because her's wasn't working probperly. For diagnostic purposes this is completedly and totally useless.

I suppose I should be extremely grateful that he has stopped flirting with her and is beginning to set boundaries so that he/we don't end up babysitting because her child is "sick", being asked to fix her computer every 15 minutes when it dies or driving her around any time she wants. He is going to help her to move her stuff from storage into the house (which has no lease and is owned by her ex-husbands mother) after her ex-husband cleaned the unit out of his stuff today and leaving her a massive clean-up job in the meantime. At this point I need to state that I don't have a problem looking after the kids and even driving them to and from school occassionally (i.e. not every single school day). This friend was the one who moved into our house whilst we were in Brisbane for our three months trip much earlier in this year, and while she was living with us she didn't pay rent, internet, or the majority of the groceries from the day she moved in until the day she left. The children also made it harder when they were with their mum as our unit is only two bedroom and we had 3 adults and 2 kids.

I'm just glad to be honest that he appreciated my concerns and took a step backwards (particularly as he knew I wasn't taking a dig at him) but was feeling very insecure because I was so unwell. It was this being unwell and having to fight to keep each other alive, not to mention attempting to keep each other functioning - even if it wasn't all that pretty. Although I've pretty much removed the ability to alter the steps since then.