[Fleeting Angel]

I have been trying really hard to love myself and something came up recently. It's a reoccurring pattern in my life that someone falls in love with me, whom I do not love. I feel so guilty breaking their hearts. I do not want to cause them pain and suffering. Doing it makes me not like myself a little more. I feel bad.

So I have to figure out how I'm going to let someone know that there will never be anything between us. I've tried in the past to imply that I'm not interested through being mean or ignoring them. They still have not gotten the hint. I need to explicitly tell this person and I don't want to harm their self-esteem. Any suggestions please?

This has been going on for way too long... five years maybe... and we haven't talked for the past two. We were never anything more than friends and only saw each other for a couple summers.