At the end of the day, it's your decision and your right (however strange that sounds) to self injure. You have your own reasons, and although people who don't self-injure may see that as "odd" or "strange" behaviour, please do NOT let it discredit how you're feeling.
I was with my boyfriend for 3 months before telling him, very similar to your situation. He knew the odd incident or whatever, but sitting him down and telling him how I felt/why I felt it was the most liberating experience ever. If he doesn't understand, he may do in time. And if not, then he's not worth being in a relationship with mdear. I COMPLETELY agree with the letter idea - it gives him time to read it and let it sink in, without any knee-jerk instant reactions. At the end of the day, his anger is spawned out of love. He cares about you, and it's pretty hard news to get about someone you love. All the best, please let us know how it goes.
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