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Old 16-06-2012, 08:35 PM   #14
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From my post up above ^

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Like a woman pointed to the computer she'd been using, but it was right towards me like her hand was nearly in my face, and pointing at my head. I felt really uncomfortable and intimidated, and I asked for her not to point at me like that. She said she'd been pointing at the computer. I said, but it was right in my face. She then didn't say anything and seemed to feel a bit affronted. I really need to practice setting my boundaries in situations like that. I felt so shaky afterwards, but part of me says it was a reasonable request, and another part of me says I was rude. I know I have a 'right' to speak up if something makes me very uncomfortable. I don't have to be 'walked all over'. The trouble is that I am more easily made uncomfortable due to my past, and my discomfort makes others feel unwelcome a lot. I really haven't got that sussed yet.
It comes across like I hate the person and I feel badly threatened by them. Which of course part of me does. It can feel such a mess. *sigh*
[I am working things through in therapy, just sometimes I 'can't help myself' as it were, and the impulse to set boundaries in a sort of nasty way happens because I guess the situation triggers flashbacks in a semi-conscious part of me. *ashamed*]

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