Originally Posted by
squirrelspit
Personally (totes just my opinion and not the opinion of all the mods/the site/Harley etc) i feel RYL currently does a lot to normalise sitting in a pit of woe and keeping yoursel ill, yet discourages discussion of the practicalities of having mal adaptive behaviours as part of normal life.
Which is quite funny really because at meets and such self harm is discussed as casually as anything else, and even with some humour, yet on a self harm support site, it seems to be taboo.
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Originally Posted by
Exploding Rickshaws
Even if the intention is not to glamourise or encourage, if I were to say "I cut today and I feel so much better, my stress just bled right out of me," I think members in the difficult early stages of recovery might read that and think "god I want to feel that again." If we were to institute a similar complete-openness policy on the ED board, we'd get posts like "I reached my goal weight today and I'm so proud of myself," which would inevitably lead to some members thinking "if she can do it, I can, I just need to restrict more."
To me, that seems like a standard support thread, more so if you added in another sentence about struggling with recovery and the point of it.
As for the ED board, I think it'd be more like "I didn't eat enough today and I'm feeling really good about it. I know this is wrong and need a boost to help me see the positives of recovery."
Like you said, if someone is wanting any excuse to be made upset then they will find it. You say why should be enable them, I say why should we stop everyone else from discussing what they want to?