I don't see it as being pathetic- if you knew my story this is quite mild. In my opinion, a friendship is an evolution because you are both changing. Of course your friendship may change- and you wish it was how it was before, but if you are friends so you will remain. I have had weird experiences (I cannot have arguments without anxiety) and yet, my BFF is my truth............I trust that they will tell me if I am doing something that is mean or doesn't make sense.
Similarly, I know that by respecting my BFF and myself- a romantic relationship is not an option because if I use your case someone else is involved. And right now I cannot risk damaging our friendship because I do not have anyone else to support me.
Take it a day at a time. Honestly, my "distractions" don't really involve other people. I feel vulnerable and embarrased when I make new acquaintances because I "need" alot. But I know that my BFF is there for me when it matters. However, life means sometimes I have to be there for me.
Everything cannot revolve around them for my sanity and my safety.
I just want you to know that you are not alone- and true friendships are borne out of adversity such as these.
Spending time with other friends or by yourself does not mean you are giving up on Adam. It just means that you are investing in you.
I am sorry I am being so opinionated- but I really am against persons with mental health issues getting into relationships where they cheat on people etc. You are vulnerable as it is- don't put yourself in unstable relationships. There is more to relationships than physical.............
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