I think if you can, it is best to sit down and talk to your parents at a time when people feel their most calm. Like, if it comes out in the middle of an argument (which it can do) then it's likely to be even harder to explain and to be heard.
I can't really remember how my Mum found out because I was in foster care when I was younger and I think it's likely that one of my social workers told her.
You are doing a really brave thing and I think your parents will appreciate your honesty. Would it be helpful for you to write a letter for your parents if you don't feel you can sit them down and say the words?
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