It sounds like you're in quite a tough situation. I think in order to help anyone we have to take care of ourselves first, otherwise you could end up burning yourself out and then you can't really look after some else as well if you're not looking after yourself too.
I've been with my partner for about two years and he's my carer, I know he often feels quite drained from looking after me, I've not been well for a while.
I think the suggestion of talking to him about this is good, he may not want therapy but your needs and health must be taken into consideration too. I've been offered therapy and am on a waiting list at the moment, it's something my partner and I are eager to start, as hopefully it will mean there's less pressure on him to be my sole source of care and support. So it might be worth trying to broach the subject of therapy with him and explain how it might help you and him both.
The suggestion of finding support for you is good I think, in the UK there are support groups for carers to get together and some people find that very useful, I imagine there might be something similar where you are. It might be worth trying to find out anyway.
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