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Steel Maiden · 28-04-2012, 11:01 AM

I would like your opinion on this as I have difficulty with understanding social interactions and social rules.

(I live in supported housing and E and L are the other people living here)

Last night, E, the carer and I were talking in the living room. Then L came back home and entered the living room extremely distressed and in tears. E looked at her once and then turned back to the carer and continued talking as if L wasn't there. L sat down and cried even more. But E was still taking to the carer. I said to E "L is crying, don't you realise?" E ignored me and carried on talking about herself to the carer. I said to L "what's wrong?" and I was about to say "can I help in any way?" but E talked over me. Then I got angry at E and said "look, L is crying, you shouldn't act as if she is not there and you should show interest and care!" E actually stopped talking at that point, but while the carer and I were talking to L and asking her what's wrong, E just fiddled about with her phone for about a minute, and then got up and said "I'm going to make dinner, then I have to go to church as tonight is a special service blah blah *insert more things about herself*", and left the room. L started to talk to us and it turned out that her brother is a heroin addict and is suffering severely. Ten minutes later, E stood in the doorway and said "I'm going to church now, bye" and walked out.

Now I am not expert on social protocols but I think E was rude and selfish. I myself do not have many feelings, so even when I see someone crying, I don't feel emotion, BUT I do know, from being taught by my friend at school (who taught me a lot of social protocols and I learned them through practise and role play), that when someone is crying, you're supposed to show care and interest in what their problem is, and that you're supposed to try and help them, and offer kind words.

E is selfish, in my opinion. For example, she'll come home and say "Hi Olympia, how are you?" and I'll start saying "I'm ok, I've just been to see my social worker and..." and then E will butt in and start a long monologue about her life and what she's been doing and what music she likes etc. I always try to stop her and do the social protocol of "give and take" in conversation, but it always ends up as me listening to her talking about herself for several minutes.

I am not sure how to react or what to do regarding E. She keeps trying to make physical contact with me, despite the fact that I told her I cannot cope with physical contact. She also spends hours blasting the TV with music and singing very loudly, despite me an the neighbours complaining about it repeatedly.

Advice?

28-04-2012, 11:01 AM	#1
Steel Maiden There is no place like 127.0.0.1 Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: London	Is this rude? I would like your opinion on this as I have difficulty with understanding social interactions and social rules. (I live in supported housing and E and L are the other people living here) Last night, E, the carer and I were talking in the living room. Then L came back home and entered the living room extremely distressed and in tears. E looked at her once and then turned back to the carer and continued talking as if L wasn't there. L sat down and cried even more. But E was still taking to the carer. I said to E "L is crying, don't you realise?" E ignored me and carried on talking about herself to the carer. I said to L "what's wrong?" and I was about to say "can I help in any way?" but E talked over me. Then I got angry at E and said "look, L is crying, you shouldn't act as if she is not there and you should show interest and care!" E actually stopped talking at that point, but while the carer and I were talking to L and asking her what's wrong, E just fiddled about with her phone for about a minute, and then got up and said "I'm going to make dinner, then I have to go to church as tonight is a special service blah blah insert more things about herself", and left the room. L started to talk to us and it turned out that her brother is a heroin addict and is suffering severely. Ten minutes later, E stood in the doorway and said "I'm going to church now, bye" and walked out. Now I am not expert on social protocols but I think E was rude and selfish. I myself do not have many feelings, so even when I see someone crying, I don't feel emotion, BUT I do know, from being taught by my friend at school (who taught me a lot of social protocols and I learned them through practise and role play), that when someone is crying, you're supposed to show care and interest in what their problem is, and that you're supposed to try and help them, and offer kind words. E is selfish, in my opinion. For example, she'll come home and say "Hi Olympia, how are you?" and I'll start saying "I'm ok, I've just been to see my social worker and..." and then E will butt in and start a long monologue about her life and what she's been doing and what music she likes etc. I always try to stop her and do the social protocol of "give and take" in conversation, but it always ends up as me listening to her talking about herself for several minutes. I am not sure how to react or what to do regarding E. She keeps trying to make physical contact with me, despite the fact that I told her I cannot cope with physical contact. She also spends hours blasting the TV with music and singing very loudly, despite me an the neighbours complaining about it repeatedly. Advice?
	PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10 or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student. I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out. I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included. Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.