hi Raven,
i found counselling the best thing i ever ever did for myself.
i did try 3 before i found the one for me.
there are lots of different theory approaches, but what i discovered was the best person was one i felt strong enough in who they were that i could literally tell them anything (and i told her everything) without her breaking or freaking out on me.
the other thing was her trust in me. whatever i did or said i felt it was the right thing for me at the time, even self harm, it was a coping mechanism and so i clearly needed to cope with something.
she didnt give advice or guidance, she gave me space to breath, she held me (not literally) as i figured out what i needed.
it was patience, care, kindness and love.
it was challenging, it took courage beyond belief some days, but i kept on keeping on, everyday just breathing.
even on the very hardest of days, i just breathed.
the important thing is finding the person you fit with, who gives you what you need.
i hope that makes sense.
Good luck with the court case.
how are your and Freyja celebrating her fourth birthday in 3 wks 5 days?
Fishfinger
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