thank you for your replies, i spoke to my partner last night and its not just the sex issue, i feel like he doesnt even want to be near me any longer and i dont really want to be near him. so we spoke and said "how can we fix this, do you even want to?" and he said he did but he didnt know how to. But then after i put the baby to bed we had a cuddle and a propper talk and i feel alot better about everything. he said that he doesnt want sex at the moment anyway because he is stressed and not very well psyhically so he doesnt feel annoyed about that and that maybe we should spend some time together away from the baby and also just by ourselves without the baby. so today after my therapy (my son was at the childminder) i called him up and asked if wanted to spend lunch with me for an hour before i had to pick him up and we did and it was nice. so i feel better about everything.
thank you all for your advice talking is the best option definatly, i just wish i could feel attractive and like i actually want sex because eventhough its fine for him now i dont think i will ever really enjoy it or want to do it again.
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