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Harmless_Baby · 20-03-2012, 11:47 PM

Okay, So here it is; I'm 20weeks Pregnant & it turns out that because my job has cut me down to just doing 2mornings a week, it's not gonna be enough for me to be entitled to the Government Maternity Benefit once I've had this baby.
So it means that once I have the baby, I've pretty much got to go back to work asap, in order to keep me & the baby alive.
My boyfriend lives with me - the babies father - So I'm not gonna get any other help from the Benefits because he earns too much. But he's being such a douche, by now saying that he isn't gonna be able to help me out with expenses because he's still gonna have his own bills to pay!
Already, I have to pay for the food, gas & Letric on the earnings of just £54 a week. It's stressing me out, because he's on my case about money for the moment, but then once the baby comes.. We're gonna have more expenses coming out from the baby & I won't be able to work in the same job anymore as I can't get a babysitter, So I'd have to find evening work.

But I'm just sooooo stressed out! & Peed off, because he's making me feel so low. I thought the men, it was in their nature to want to provide for his girl & baby. Specially as I'm having to go through the birth, which in some known cases, can kill you! But also having to go through the 9months with the carrying-progress, he just isn't bothered by it!
& then once I've had the baby, he's expecting me to go back to work straight after, to carry on earning the cash to pay for Food, Gas, Letric, TV-License, Water & etc, just whilst he pays his debts off & the Rent & Council tax

.. Am i entitled to be stressed & peed off at him, because of what he's wanting/expecting from me? Or am I just being a Gold-Digger & expecting too much? xxx

I can't cope like this anymore..
I dont even wanna say it, let alone think it, but he's making me like I'm regretting falling pregnant by accident! & the worst thing is, I can't seem to fix any of this,
I don't wanna be stuck in this Situation anymore.
Giving up the baby would never be an option, but in someway, i just wish i never fell pregnant now, then I wouldnt have to be with this guy & I wouldn't be in this dilema :(

I'm feeling so sad!

20-03-2012, 11:47 PM	#1
Harmless_Baby Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Southampton, England I am currently:	I dunno where I stand. I don't know what to do!? Please help me, Someone :( Okay, So here it is; I'm 20weeks Pregnant & it turns out that because my job has cut me down to just doing 2mornings a week, it's not gonna be enough for me to be entitled to the Government Maternity Benefit once I've had this baby. So it means that once I have the baby, I've pretty much got to go back to work asap, in order to keep me & the baby alive. My boyfriend lives with me - the babies father - So I'm not gonna get any other help from the Benefits because he earns too much. But he's being such a douche, by now saying that he isn't gonna be able to help me out with expenses because he's still gonna have his own bills to pay! Already, I have to pay for the food, gas & Letric on the earnings of just £54 a week. It's stressing me out, because he's on my case about money for the moment, but then once the baby comes.. We're gonna have more expenses coming out from the baby & I won't be able to work in the same job anymore as I can't get a babysitter, So I'd have to find evening work. But I'm just sooooo stressed out! & Peed off, because he's making me feel so low. I thought the men, it was in their nature to want to provide for his girl & baby. Specially as I'm having to go through the birth, which in some known cases, can kill you! But also having to go through the 9months with the carrying-progress, he just isn't bothered by it! & then once I've had the baby, he's expecting me to go back to work straight after, to carry on earning the cash to pay for Food, Gas, Letric, TV-License, Water & etc, just whilst he pays his debts off & the Rent & Council tax .. Am i entitled to be stressed & peed off at him, because of what he's wanting/expecting from me? Or am I just being a Gold-Digger & expecting too much? xxx I can't cope like this anymore.. I dont even wanna say it, let alone think it, but he's making me like I'm regretting falling pregnant by accident! & the worst thing is, I can't seem to fix any of this, I don't wanna be stuck in this Situation anymore. Giving up the baby would never be an option, but in someway, i just wish i never fell pregnant now, then I wouldnt have to be with this guy & I wouldn't be in this dilema :( I'm feeling so sad!