I agree that they will be doing more harm that good. They are stripping him of his male identity and giving him, essentially, a third gender in a society where typically there are only two. (My views on this differ, but I'm talking about at Sasha's age, at primary school, you typically see 'girls' and 'boys' not 'gender neutral' children).
If they wanted him to see that playing with more female stereotypical toys is acceptable then they could express that to him by talking about it and giving him a free choice in the toy shop. They should educate him about gender and gender identity in an appropriate way for his age and as he grows up explain to him about sexuality too, so he can find out for himself who he really is.
As I said before, because they consciously chose to raise him as a gender neutral child (referring to him as The Infant in public, seriously, I hate that) they will have forced him to wear masculine and feminine clothes before he could make the choice for himself. And now I expect he's learnt that mummy and daddy are very pleased when he chooses the fairy wings or the barbie dolls.
I can just see him growing up, resenting his parents and the way he was brought up, and taking on a really harsh, butch, aggressive male identity. I hope I'm wrong, I really do.
And yeah, I don't think he is a 'freak' (I think he is in an unfortunate situation because at that age, your parents dictate your life and choices) but he IS different. And different children get picked on. Kids are cruel.
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