I'd rather someone came up to me and said "You're a bitch, this is why." I'd accept that, probably apologise if I was genuinely being a bitch, even if I didn't mean to and move on from it.
But overhearing something being said about me when there is no logical reason as to why I'm being bitched about, that's not fun. It hasn't happened at meets (so if you have bitched about me at a meet, which I'm sure must have happened, well done on keeping it discreet :P ) It's bad enough for it to happen to anyone, let alone members of a MH website where most have an intense feeling of self-hatred and lack of self esteem.
However, it IS nice to go somewhere and get people saying "I used to think you were a bitch/scary/bit of a dick, but after speaking to you properly, you're actually nice!" Because, believe it or not guys, I am lovely ;)
But yes, basically, just think about how you would feel if someone else was talking about you like you are talking about another member. Not fun.
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