I don't really do meets. I've been to one and there's not likely to be one I go to in the near future (no offence to the people I was with on the meet!) but there's always a possibility but that's not what I wanted to bring up. Basically as well as that, people have their own sense of humour, people get on really well with some members than others and there may be in jokes with them people or things they can joke about which may sound like they're bitching about that person with a group who don't know. Same as some people use a lot of sarcasm and other people don't understand sarcasm at all or don't use it and may take things really literal. There's a lot of things that come into it and so it's hard to say that x is where you draw the line and also, I'd just think of it as going out with a group of mates. If you think about it like that then you might bitch to them about someone else you all mutually know to some extent but so long as it doesn't hurt anyone then it probably doesn't matter, it's human nature.
One thing for instance I might say (and might've done on msn before!) is "God Kim (Bitter_Angel) never does any work on First Aid, she leaves me to do the whole lot whilst she just sits around enjoying life and being lazy" and yep, atm I spend more time on FA than Kim but other times the opposite will be true. We both get on well, often are talking to each other on msn and txting. We joke at times together about her not being on as much as me but I know the reasons why she's not on as much and thats fair enough. However, if I said it out loud at a meet people would more than likely think I'm bitching about her and stuff because people don't know each others characteristics, the whole story (and tbh on here you only ever get to find out a small portion of what someone's really like. Most people on hear will probably know I'm a First Aid Advisor. Many will have guessed that either currently/ in my past I'll have had something to SH or similar. Those who look at my profile may see I'm a vet. Some others may have picked up my health's maybe not ace. Then there maybe be the odd bit more and more still that the staff know but it's still only a very small part of 'me' that people generally know about me from being on here and the same about anyone else and that'll affect how we react and how others percieve we react and what we think may be personally acceptable may seem the total opposite to others because of how they grew up or simply not knowing a lot about the people.
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