I put once a week, but that is usually my texting and Mum leaving a voicemail back [my parents haven't mastered the art of texting]. Sounds odd maybe but I had to do a lot of work on boundaries to stop them, especially Dad, calling me all the time for completely random things. He was lonely, I see now.
Anyway, it is actually speaking on the phone once or twice a week at the moment, because Dad's not well, and I've had a lot of work joys to impart. And I feel more secure in my sense of self, and can set boundaries/feel less engulfed by them.
I too am an only child, and my parents and I all have attachment issues of one kind or another due to childhood emotional trauma.
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