I'm a bit confused, are you saying that this is the first time he's found out about your self injury? If that's the case he's probably just shocked, upset and angry. He doesn't know how to respond. I'd give him time. Let him do exactly what he's doing; hang out with friends and cool down. If you try to talk to him when he's not ready sh*t will seriously go down.
When you talk to him try to take both your feelings in to account. Admit that his anger does upset you, but don't blame him for relapsing. That's not going to help. Also listen to his side of the story, and try to take account for what he is trying to say. Maybe if you both know how each other feels about this, you can come to a compromise.
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